和“山竹型人格”的人在一起，会很幸福
<!----><style type="text/css">html{font-size:375%}</style><link href="https://pics-app.cnyw.net/static/publish/css/style.css?v=20240712" rel="stylesheet" position="1" data-qf-origin="/static/publish/css/style.css?v=20240712"><!-- 付费贴--> <div class="preview_article "> <!----> <p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pics-app.cnyw.net/forum/20250926060715front2_0_531849_FpBdDKQr-WOiFtSSj-fHA05eQy1q.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" alt="" width="4096" height="2592" data-qf-origin="forum/20250926060715front2_0_531849_FpBdDKQr-WOiFtSSj-fHA05eQy1q.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" 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</p><p> </p><p> </p><h3>“山竹型人格”的四种特质</h3><p> </p><h3>01 敢做自己</h3><p> </p><p>有“山竹型人格”的人，往往很敢做自己。他们不会轻易顺着周围的声音改变自己的初衷，也从不吝啬于发出自己的声音。他们会坦然接受大家的好意，在乎他人感受，愿意主动关心他人，但也敢于表达自己的真实想法和心情。</p><p> </p><p>在心理学中，这其实是一种重视自身主体性的表现。主体性高的人，会承认并尊重自己的感受和愿望，而不是总被外界的期待所裹挟。</p><p> </p><p>正因如此，“山竹型人格”的人总是知道自己想要什么，并会随着自己的心意来表达并付诸行动，无论是好的还是坏的方面，都愿意在人前展示出来。他们不会将心房紧闭，愿意直面生活中的问题，所以“山竹型人格”的人的生活幸福感更强，人际关系也会更好。</p><p> </p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pics-app.cnyw.net/forum/20250926035346front2_0_531849_Fnt5O41osJS3YMcbH99OWtw5wu0L.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" alt="" width="4072" height="2064" data-qf-origin="forum/20250926035346front2_0_531849_Fnt5O41osJS3YMcbH99OWtw5wu0L.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" data-qf-thumb="https://pics-app.cnyw.net/forum/20250926035346front2_0_531849_Fnt5O41osJS3YMcbH99OWtw5wu0L.jpg?imageView2/2/w/1080|watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" data-qf-thumb-origin="forum/20250926035346front2_0_531849_Fnt5O41osJS3YMcbH99OWtw5wu0L.jpg?imageView2/2/w/1080|watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" /></p><p> </p><p> </p><h3>02 心怀感恩</h3><p> </p><p>“山竹型人格”的人具有一种高感恩特质，他们总能发现并欣赏生活中那些美好的事物，并给出积极的回应。接受朋友的关心时，他们会坦诚地表达感谢；看到生活中美好的事物时，他们也会真诚夸赞。</p><p> </p><p>这种特质，其实就是积极心理学里所说的“感恩”。有心理学研究表明，会感恩的人，更容易发现生活中的闪光点，也更能感到幸福和快乐。</p><p>此外，在人际关系中， “山竹型人”也总是会给出积极回应，他们会正面回应你对他们的好，也会积极地用行动来回馈。与他们做好朋友，是一件感觉非常好的事情，因为你会觉得，你对TA的每一点好都被对方看在眼里，你切实地被朋友珍视着。</p><p> </p><p>换言之，当我们能够以感恩之心来看待他人的关心，并向对方表示感谢，不仅自己能够体验到愉悦和温暖，也能让对方感到自己的付出被看见、接纳和珍视。</p><p> </p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pics-app.cnyw.net/forum/20250926035411front2_0_531849_FnW4MOGz4MnyGY97Ii_bPH-DlovZ.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" alt="" width="4096" height="2076" data-qf-origin="forum/20250926035411front2_0_531849_FnW4MOGz4MnyGY97Ii_bPH-DlovZ.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" data-qf-thumb="https://pics-app.cnyw.net/forum/20250926035411front2_0_531849_FnW4MOGz4MnyGY97Ii_bPH-DlovZ.jpg?imageView2/2/w/1080|watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" data-qf-thumb-origin="forum/20250926035411front2_0_531849_FnW4MOGz4MnyGY97Ii_bPH-DlovZ.jpg?imageView2/2/w/1080|watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" /></p><p> </p><p> </p><h3>03 懂得照顾他人</h3><p> </p><p>“山竹型人格”的人不但能够看到他人的好，还很懂得照顾他人。他们总能非常细心地察觉你的状态，发现你潜藏的需求，然后用妥帖的态度去好好对待。</p><p> </p><p>这种很像山竹内里的温柔特质，在心理学中被称为“宜人性”。有这种特质人，拥有较强的同理心，善于站在对方的角度思考，会关心他人的需求，也更愿意释放自己的体贴和善意。</p><p> </p><p>所谓“赠人玫瑰，手留余香”。人际交往是一件相互的事情，懂得换位思考和照顾他人，并不等于讨好或妥协，因为帮助别人本身就是一件会让人感到愉悦的事情，而他人的回馈则会让我们感到更加踏实和幸福。</p><p> </p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pics-app.cnyw.net/forum/20250926035447front2_0_531849_nsGI2fKkFpo7s6RmM_o8jxKKOntz.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" alt="" width="4096" height="2076" data-qf-origin="forum/20250926035447front2_0_531849_nsGI2fKkFpo7s6RmM_o8jxKKOntz.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" data-qf-thumb="https://pics-app.cnyw.net/forum/20250926035447front2_0_531849_nsGI2fKkFpo7s6RmM_o8jxKKOntz.jpg?imageView2/2/w/1080|watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" data-qf-thumb-origin="forum/20250926035447front2_0_531849_nsGI2fKkFpo7s6RmM_o8jxKKOntz.jpg?imageView2/2/w/1080|watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" /></p><p> </p><p> </p><h3>04 拥有开放心态</h3><p> </p><p>“山竹型人格”的人经常被他人评价少有“说教感”，这是因为他们更容易包容他人，拥有很强的“开放性”特质。</p><p> </p><p>“开放性”强的人接受度很高，总能以更多维的视角观察世界，也更善于接受新鲜事物和不一样的观点。他们往往有很强的创造力，也有较强的理解能力，这让他们能够在社会上获得更多机会。</p><p>对未知的事物保持好奇，对个体之间的差异保持尊重，是一种珍贵的特质。这不仅能让自己获得更丰富和新奇的体验，也会让他人感到被理解和接纳，这种温暖可以拉近人与人之间的距离。</p><p> </p><p> </p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img src="https://pics-app.cnyw.net/forum/20250926035506front2_0_531849_Ftvcy32ch_BuJeFdK0rty3egA7BX.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" alt="" width="3830" height="2076" data-qf-origin="forum/20250926035506front2_0_531849_Ftvcy32ch_BuJeFdK0rty3egA7BX.jpg?watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" data-qf-thumb="https://pics-app.cnyw.net/forum/20250926035506front2_0_531849_Ftvcy32ch_BuJeFdK0rty3egA7BX.jpg?imageView2/2/w/1080|watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" data-qf-thumb-origin="forum/20250926035506front2_0_531849_Ftvcy32ch_BuJeFdK0rty3egA7BX.jpg?imageView2/2/w/1080|watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" /></p><p> </p><p> </p><h3>该如何培养“山竹型人格”</h3><p> </p><p>有心理学研究表明，虽然人格特质是一种相对稳定的心理特征，但是它也会随着环境、经历和反复练习而发生变化。</p><p> </p><p>所以，如果我们希望拥有这种让幸福感变强的人格特质，可以试试以下3种方法——</p><p> </p><h3>01 重新建立与自我的连接</h3><p> </p><p>想要提高自己的主体性，我们可以从一些非常小的事情开始做起，多觉察和表达自己的真实感受和愿望，比如：</p><p> </p><p>每天留出几分钟的时间用来自我觉察，问自己：“我现在感觉如何？我想要什么？”哪怕答案只是简单的“有点困”“想喝水”，也能帮助自己提升自我觉察的能力。</p><p> </p><p>在与朋友的交往过程中，尽量避免“都行”“听你的”“没什么”等话语，试着表达真实的想法，比如“我今天有点累，更想休息”等。</p><p> </p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" 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data-qf-thumb-origin="forum/20250926035527front2_0_531849_FgWQ1k_OkwFtAN8fDi74Gp-YqvrM.jpg?imageView2/2/w/1080|watermark/1/image/aHR0cDovL3BpY3MtYXBwLmNueXcubmV0L18yMDE5MDQyNTA5MTYwMF81Y2MxMGE1MDc5ZjY2LnBuZw==/dissolve/100/gravity/SouthEast" /></p><p> </p><p> </p><h3>02 在日常里进行感恩练习</h3><p> </p><p>积极心理学认为，练习感恩的能力，能让人更敏锐地看到生活中那些温暖的细节，也能很好地加强与他人之间的情感连接。比如：</p><p> </p><p>每周抽一段时间，写下3到5件值得你感恩的事情。</p><p> </p><p>写一封信给一位你从未好好感谢过的人。</p><p> </p><h3>03 保持开放接纳的心态</h3><p> </p><p>有研究表明，人的开放性可能会随着年龄增长而略有降低。也就是说，我们对世界的好奇心可能会减少，对一些事情也会没那么大热情。</p><p> </p><p>所以，为了保持开放性，我们可以从一些小事做起：比如周末去一家没去过的餐馆，下班时走一条不同的回家路，或者读一本以前没看过的书等。</p><p> </p><p>此外，也可以偶尔尝试一些完全不同的体验，从而不断拓展自己的人生边界。比如去上一次绘画课，学习滑雪或攀岩等运动。</p><p> </p><p>最后，祝大家都能拥有强大的主体性，也能拥有包容和接纳的温柔内里。</p><p> </p><p> </p><p class="empty_paragraph"> </p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img 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