为陇头朱村敢为人先的举措点赞
<!----><style type="text/css">html{font-size:375%}</style><link href="https://pics-app.cnyw.net/static/publish/css/style.css?v=20240712" rel="stylesheet" position="1" data-qf-origin="/static/publish/css/style.css?v=20240712"><!-- 付费贴--> <div class="preview_article "> <!----> <p>文/张月月(尹亚青)</p><p>摄影(王秀康)</p><p> 2026年6月14日,随文友来到陇头朱村采风。有着800年历史的该村,文化底蕴深厚,人杰地灵,名人辈出。最让我感到欣赏称赞的是这里创办的女儿节。</p><p> 陇头朱村的女儿节与有史以来“嫁出去的女儿,泼出去的水”的习俗背道而驰。这一举措敢为人先,打破了祖祖辈辈重男轻女的旧习,肯定了女性在家庭中与社会的双重价值。转旧俗为新风,女儿也能继承家产,女儿也需赡养父母,实现儿女权责趋同,视外嫁女为娘家放飞的风筝,线的这一头永远拴在娘家,不论岁月多长,根还是在出生地。 </p><p> 节日设定在12月份的第二个周末,自2019年开始至今已成功办了七届。节日来临之际,邀请所有外嫁女回村过节。全村张灯结彩,家家户户大摆宴席,村两委组织接待,使每位归家女儿感受到回家的温暖。隆重的仪式感使外嫁女儿们感觉自己不是走亲串门,而是名正言顺的本村主角。</p><p> 陇头朱村不但创建了女儿节,还制定了一套奖学金制度,不管是村里的儿子还是外嫁女儿的子女,考上大学本科都一视同仁,奖励每人两千。这项暖心的举措,更让外嫁女儿竭尽全力反哺家乡,大力支援家乡建设,为振兴家乡捐款捐物。不论贡献多少,都是女儿们的一片心意,不少人还获评了最美女儿。 </p><p> 耳闻目睹了与众不同的陇头朱村,我实在是为该村的女儿感到庆幸。高兴之余也不禁想起了我所知道的几件往事。</p><p> ①、十几年前我朋友娘家旧村改造时有几百平方米的面积,说好投票选位费用先由女儿垫付,划分给女儿相应面积的宅基地建房,可等到房子造好后却反悔了,只说垫付的资金等房子出租后慢慢归还。理由是“嫁出去的女儿,泼出去的水。”女儿已经是婆家的人,无权享受娘家的福利。</p><p> ②、邻村的老李家有一儿一女,女儿外嫁至山区村寨。李家有二百四十平方的拆迁面积,当初说好儿子分得百分之七十,女儿百分之三十,建房费用各自承担,日后父母养老事宜也按照这个比例分担。这本是两全其美的好事,可是满脑子封建旧思想的村里老人,在一旁指指点点,到处散播舆论,人言可畏,最终这件事不了了之黄了。理由又是“嫁出去的女儿,泼出去的水。”祖宗留下的一切都该归儿子所有。</p><p> ③、陈姓老两口育有三儿一女,儿子们上班的上班,做生意的做生意,忙得不可开交,平日里还需要老人搭把手帮衬,根本没有空闲照料老人。女儿身在农村,日子稍微清闲些,但也要操持一大家人的生活。平日里两位老人但凡有点急事,只能依靠女儿照料。后来病来如山倒,老爷子住院半个月,全程都是女儿贴身照料。老太太本就患有慢性病,又因忧心老伴,也病倒了,一个回来另一个又住进了医院,从此两人“进出”就没怎么消停,两年时间相继离世。</p><p> 这段日子里,女儿挑起了照顾父母的全部重担,平日里还贴点小钱。但父母在世时,从未向女儿提起过自己的积Xu之事。等到后事办完,家人才发现老人留有诸多存单。</p><p> 一些长辈,包括娘舅、伯伯提议,拿出一小部分钱款当作女儿病床尽孝的酬劳,剩下的存款由三个儿子平分。儿子们各分到十几万巨款,尽心尽力尽孝的女儿却只拿到几千元,这样真的合理吗?理由还是那句老话:“嫁出去的女儿,泼出去的水”。娘家遗产归儿子所有,女儿只需尽孝,没有继承权利。 众所周知,自古以来民间就有“传儿不传女”的旧俗,不管是独门手艺、祖传秘方,还是各类家业资源,大多只传男、不传女,视女儿为外人。</p><p> 此次陇头朱村之行,让我真切看到了破旧立新的乡村新风尚,打破了千百年来的封建陋习,真正做到了男女平等、亲情无别。</p><p> 为陇头朱村敢为人先的举措点赞!</p><p class="qf_image big noneditable" contenteditable="false"><img 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陇头朱村,有我初中同班同学,后高中都考入金华二中。她是一班,我是六班。她考入哈军工。丈夫浦江人 ,比我高一届 。广州军区图书馆长,少将。她叫朱贤春。是一家兵工厂厂长。
(义乌市文联原主席张金龙说的) 咏陇头朱女儿节
远涉天涯念故庐,佳人归省奉亲疏。
捐资筑景荣桑梓,助学倾心育幼雏。
摒弃陈规除浅见,柔怀涤弊破尘拘。
梅香漫野开新韵,一片丹心护故土。 https://pics-app.cnyw.net/admin_FsbLrH4XpF1aok8fg1u_Me6G4sVj.png送出团圆月x1 欣赏月月姐佳作。